Segulah is one of those silly little things that we abide by even though we would never describe Judaism as a superstitious religion. It's a series of customs through which the bride and groom, who apparently have magical powers on their wedding day, bestow their blessings upon their single friends to find a mate.
And so, sorcerers and sorceresses of the chuppah, be aware of the following wedding customs, for they are all segulah, and they will all be appreciated by your superstitious and searching single (girl)friends:
Pieces of the plate--this one isn't as commonly done as others but it is nice just the same. Pieces of the plate that is broken by the two mothers during the t'naim ceremony in the chassan's tisch are wrapped in plastic or fabric and given out to singles.
Jewelry--this is the biggest one, and the biggest honor. Since it is like Yom Kippur for the bride and groom, it is customary for the bride to walk down the aisle unadorned. Before the chuppah ceremony, she parcels out her jewelry to single friends (and sisters) and they hold it while she walks down the aisle and gets married. They then return it after the ceremony is over.
Challah--it is segulah to eat from the main challah cut for the bride and groom.
Wine--at the wedding, and at each of the sheva brachot the following nights, it is segulah for single friends to drink from the wine drunk by the bride and groom after the sheva brachot--guys from the groom's cup, girls from the bride's.
And, of course, any blessings given during the course of the wedding have extra meaning as well, so prepare some kind words, muster up all the sincerity you've got, and get ready to make people feel good.
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